What Did She Say? Part One by Sis Bee Jay

What Did She Say?

Part One

By Sister BeeJay

No, I am not attacking women, but rather my intention is to exhort Christian women to be better women. You might ask yourself, “But why?” Well, we Christian women have great, great influence in the world, in our own communities, and in our homes. Some might even say that behind every good, successful Christian man is a good Christian woman. I can attest to the fact that this is usually true, not only in a worldly sense, but definitely also in a spiritual sense. You see, women are unique in the fact that God created us to be help meets to our husbands and mothers to our children. It might not seem like it to many people, but we women of God have a great responsibility; and yet, so little of us know our own worth in the home or even take this responsibility seriously.

Over the years, I have often wondered why marriages fail, why children rebel against society and their parents, and why circumstances in certain homes are so bleak. I thought and thought about it for some time and I now know that the Holy Spirit has begun to give me some light on the matter. The Lord began to show me that women have a great deal to do with many of these things. The buck could stop with us women. You see, the woman is the one who nourishes in the family. She is the one in the family who feeds or sustains with substances necessary to life and growth. She has close contact with her husband and her children. She teaches her children from a very early age and she can be the very one in the family who can be the encourager. So, a lot of what she says and does directly affects the whole family. When the mother says to her young son, “You are just like your daddy! You’ll always be no good,” she is not just speaking negatively, but she is actually cursing her husband and his son by saying that they are both resigned to being no good for the rest of their lives. Well, many of you will think that I am being a little too extreme and that I am taking words too seriously, but as Christians we have to learn that our words are to be taken seriously. Proverbs 6:2 says, “Thou art snared with the words of thy mouth, thou art taken with the words of thy mouth.”

We Christians speak words that are powerfully creative and we get what we say. When we speak to our children words of curses, we are actually speaking into their lives things that will eventually happen. So, when your eighteen-year-old son has just been sent to prison, do not wonder what you as a parent did wrong. Go back a few years and try to remember what words were spoken over your child with your own mouth. When you call your husband a “no good, shiftless, good-for-nothing womanizer,” do not be surprised if that is exactly what he becomes. Proverbs 14:1 says, “Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.”

I know that we all want to be wise women. Therefore, we must remember to always speak words that build up and not tear down, especially in the home. We are framing our destinies with our words: we are speaking directly into our own lives, the lives of our husbands, and the lives of our children. We are changing circumstances by what we say. “A man’s belly shall be satisfied with the fruit of his mouth: and with the increase of his lips shall he be filled. Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. [Proverbs 18:20-21]”

If you would say to me, “Sister BeeJay, you are right; I am guilty,” then join me in this prayer (because we all have been guilty at one time or another): Heavenly Father, I am guilty! I have spoken cruel, negative words over my family for years. Father, I repent of all the words of death that I have sown over my life and over the lives of my husband and children. Heavenly Father, forgive me. Lord, stand guard over my lips and my tongue, in the precious name of Jesus. Amen.

Sister BeeJay can be reached at beejayokla@cox.net